On Parenting, Harsh Discipline & Independent Thinking

5-2-1 Smart Thursdays #29

5 parenting tips, 2 inspirations, 1 question (August 5th, 2021)


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🌿Happy 5-2-1 Impact Thursday🌿


Here are 5 high performance insights I've learnt, 2 quotes from others, and 1 conversation starter/ question to think about this week.




Love Is Never Too Much!

We may think that a kid will be spoilt if we lavish them with too much love, but that's not true! Love isn't about giving them material things, being lenient but rather emotional support, presence, time and other intangibles which builds up your child and strengthens your bond with them.


Your Actions Leave A Lasting Impression

Studies show that children are shaped by the family culture they grow up in and the actions you make will make a difference in their behaviour in the future. Always think first about what you wish to achieve and if the action will led to that goal.


Explain Instead Of Dictate

It may be easier to simply tell the kids what to do, especially when you are exhausted from work and it seems like something obvious. However, kids don't see things the same way, so always explain. This gives them a reason to comply and also understand the underlying principle.


Excessively Harsh Discipline May Backfire

Spare the rod and spoil the child – this is a common adage especially in Asian families. Children who are physically disciplined tend towards aggression and fighting. Corporal punishment may be necessary at times but should be a last resort, explained properly and not done out of anger.


Encourage Independent Thinking

It's easy to simply tell your kids what to do or not to do, and these limits help them to develop self-control and protects them. On the flip side, we should also encourage independence as it helps them to be self directed internally instead of blindly following to set them up for success in the future.




“If we don’t shape our kids, they will be shaped by outside forces that don’t care what shape our kids are in.”—Dr. Louise Hart


“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person: He believed in me.”—Jim Valvano




Are you genuine and true to yourself with your kids?


We often wear different masks at work, at home, with friends and maybe even with kids. Think about it, do you show your kids it's ok to not be perfect or do you hide your issues from them? If so, will your kids feel like it's alright to be real with you?

Until next week,

Caleb & Megan
Founder, SG Smart Parents Conference
Straits Times Featured Property Advisor With 12 Year Track Record


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